Our first subject grows up in a trad family. She sees certain aspects of the situation—her mother’s eternal workload, her mother’s dependence on the dad—and consciously reviles them. But she unconsciously also likes aspects of her mom’s situation, like how she doesn’t have to be around people all the time like her dad does, & also that she gets to depend on a man. She spends a lot of time on the internet & it consciously teaches her a lot of third wave feminism stuff about how being a SAHM is unfair, but it also teaches her that the world out there sucks for women, and (the content of the internet being largely created by people inside, alone) it teaches her to want to keep being inside and alone.
You say things that no one else does, and many of them need to be said. I so deeply appreciate your writing.