Your point is well taken, that weak people can create more burdens, particularly because they have no choice but to do so, which can be a greater restriction on freedom than a strong person's power, which need not be exercised. It's very good.
I think I mostly agree though I would couch it differently: Isabel is actively put off by obvious good choices because she is put off by expectations. If its a good match, its obvious, everyone expects her to do it, and she has a problem (I seem to remember this is the case since the very beginning of the book) with the idea that other people have expectations of her. Osmond is in the position to expect the least (we all know incl Osmond that he's the worst match).
I don't think she's worried about Goodwood and Warburton's power over her nearly as much as frightened by (or even hatred of) the idea that other people may have expectations of her, so she exercises a kind of power only she has by making sure those expectations don't come true. Maybe that's a lamer explanation, though maybe it tracks more with HJ's sentiment in a certain other novel. And with 2012 tumblr memes that girls themselves make.
Your point is well taken, that weak people can create more burdens, particularly because they have no choice but to do so, which can be a greater restriction on freedom than a strong person's power, which need not be exercised. It's very good.
I think I mostly agree though I would couch it differently: Isabel is actively put off by obvious good choices because she is put off by expectations. If its a good match, its obvious, everyone expects her to do it, and she has a problem (I seem to remember this is the case since the very beginning of the book) with the idea that other people have expectations of her. Osmond is in the position to expect the least (we all know incl Osmond that he's the worst match).
I don't think she's worried about Goodwood and Warburton's power over her nearly as much as frightened by (or even hatred of) the idea that other people may have expectations of her, so she exercises a kind of power only she has by making sure those expectations don't come true. Maybe that's a lamer explanation, though maybe it tracks more with HJ's sentiment in a certain other novel. And with 2012 tumblr memes that girls themselves make.