among people who believe we can change the world by discussing it differently, one thing they would like the to change is how we talk about—and therefore think about, and therefore act with regards to—sex. the way we talk about sex tends to make the penetrater active and the penetratee passive. they try to come up with ways to express it the other way around. instead of the paradigm of penetration—engulf, envelop.
that dying descriptor is still alive & kicking in French -- a little death with a little friend ;)