I wonder if she is the kind of person who loves esteem much more than direct sensations. For example, I don't remember her ever mentioning enjoying food or the way a fabric feels. But she does often think how a beautiful environment enhances how others would perceive her. All of her prospects in the book would have had serious downsides socially or personality-wise, and I'm not sure sensual experience matters much in her accounting.
ive been thinking about this--i feel like she only mentions her own physical experience of her body in terms of how other people are viewing it. as opposed to dorothea, who I think is very like passionate, who thinks less about how other people will hunt her but who you often get like the internal sensations of?
like even when lily mentions that she is elastic or whatever it's always in terms of other people looking at her not like you know the yoga class feeling or whatever
Thank you for the spoiler warning! You indeed have at least one reader who cares about 120-year-old spoilers. Bookmarking this post to read once I've finished the book.
(I believe this is an acceptable excuse for the sin of commenting on posts one hasn't read.)
I always thought she was in love with Selden, but her fear of living below her class (the single thing she'd been raised to value, not love or achievement) kept her from making a sexually compatible marriage. That and if she's 20 and a maiden when the story starts, there's no story!
but she does so much other shit that impedes her making a good marriage and she repeatedly acts in ways that are disrespectful to other peoples marriages! i just feel like given that the fact that she doesn't have like an illicit affair requires a little explanation
That's the tragedy, though! Image obsessed (as the comment above gets) but can't find a man that would both work with that image and also sexually and mentally satisfy a picky heart. She's just not the type to ride every pony, so to speak, there's only one for her but she's too frightened to live freely--and perhaps Selden is too.
A good complement for this kind of story is the film Cleo from 5 to 7--Cleo lives in a totally different society sexually but is another character who's "running out of time" and has to choose between image and love. And she's not a virgin!
I wonder if she is the kind of person who loves esteem much more than direct sensations. For example, I don't remember her ever mentioning enjoying food or the way a fabric feels. But she does often think how a beautiful environment enhances how others would perceive her. All of her prospects in the book would have had serious downsides socially or personality-wise, and I'm not sure sensual experience matters much in her accounting.
ive been thinking about this--i feel like she only mentions her own physical experience of her body in terms of how other people are viewing it. as opposed to dorothea, who I think is very like passionate, who thinks less about how other people will hunt her but who you often get like the internal sensations of?
hunt was supposed to be look at. sorry I do voice to text a lot and my voice to text is terrible.
like even when lily mentions that she is elastic or whatever it's always in terms of other people looking at her not like you know the yoga class feeling or whatever
Thank you for the spoiler warning! You indeed have at least one reader who cares about 120-year-old spoilers. Bookmarking this post to read once I've finished the book.
(I believe this is an acceptable excuse for the sin of commenting on posts one hasn't read.)
pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee read it its a banger
I always thought she was in love with Selden, but her fear of living below her class (the single thing she'd been raised to value, not love or achievement) kept her from making a sexually compatible marriage. That and if she's 20 and a maiden when the story starts, there's no story!
but she does so much other shit that impedes her making a good marriage and she repeatedly acts in ways that are disrespectful to other peoples marriages! i just feel like given that the fact that she doesn't have like an illicit affair requires a little explanation
That's the tragedy, though! Image obsessed (as the comment above gets) but can't find a man that would both work with that image and also sexually and mentally satisfy a picky heart. She's just not the type to ride every pony, so to speak, there's only one for her but she's too frightened to live freely--and perhaps Selden is too.
A good complement for this kind of story is the film Cleo from 5 to 7--Cleo lives in a totally different society sexually but is another character who's "running out of time" and has to choose between image and love. And she's not a virgin!